So what does that mean?

So what does that mean? This is a question I've heard many times over the years.

I should just begin be defining a few things as I know them to be, believe them to be.

Submissive - A submissive person is someone who makes a conscious, adult, decision to give away their own personal power, usually to one person, and usually for a long~term period.

Bottom - A bottom is a person who submits for a brief, pre~negotiated, amount of time. They may or may not be submissives.

Dominant - A dominant person is osmeone who makes a conscious, adult, decision to accept the power over another adult, usually for a long~term period of time.

Top - A top is a person who takes control over another for a brief, pre~negotiated, amount of time. They may or may not be a dominant.

Sadist - A sadist may or may not be a dominant. A sadist is someone who enjoys inflicting pain on a willing partner.

Masochist - A masochist may or may not be a submissive. A masochist is somone who enjoys having pain inflicted on them by a willing partner.

What are 'limits' ? What is the difference between a hard limit and a soft limit? ~ Limits are those places that each individual has determined he or she can not do. A hard limit being a line the dominant or person in control may never cross. Most hard limits include - children, incest, animals, permanent bodily injury, mental anguish. For the individual it could include something like no asphyxiation, or no piercings. It just depends. A soft limit is a limit you will allow to be pushed. Perhaps it's something you've never tried before, like being floagged. You don't know if you hate it, and you're willing to let the one you trust to introduce you to it, but you reserve the right to call it a hard limit if it doesn't work. Limits should be well known and well discussed long before a dominant or top ever touches you.

Safeword - A safeword is used or kept on reserve for nearly all those who participate in the physical aspects of BDSM. A really well~known concept is green, yellow, and red. I'm sure you can figure out which color means what. A safeword should always be something easily remembered because while in play, it's not uncommon for a submissive to go into something called subspace, where they are not thinking as sharply as they would any other time and pain becomes not pain at all.

So, then what is a slave?

(That one requires a whole post of it's own)

~coming soon